Hello everyone.
Last week, I read one article entitled, '8 Great Tricks for Reading People’s Body Language' by Dr. Travis Bradberry dated March 13, 2023 and it's quite interesting to share and check with ourselves if they're true ka.
The author says the 8 tricks to read body language are:
1. Crossed arms and legs signal resistance to your ideas, explaining that the gestures mean physical barriers which suggest the other person is not open to what you’re saying.
Psychologically, crossed legs or arms signal that a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically blocked off from what’s in front of them.
For me, it doesn't fit with my feelings ka. I grew up being asked to cross my arms all the time to be focused so whenever I have to listen hard especially when it's one on one, I'd cross my arms ka. When I attended a 'coach training', it was pointed out to me not to do it and I questioned quietly in my mind that it was 'western':))!
Asked my friend about it and she could tell I was paying attention when doing so ka.
You and this body language la ka?
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2. Real smiles crinkle the eyes. The author states ..... you want to know if someone’s smile is genuine, look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes.
I thought it would be about 'sparkling eyes', which would be what I've been observing...;others and me myself ka....maybe they signal enthusiasm, not 'real smiles'?. For the crinkles, they show even without smiles mai ka? 5555!
3. Copying your body language is a good thing. Mirroring body language is something we do unconsciously when we feel a bond with the other person, showing that he/she . is receptive to your message.
I like this one especially when it can be very useful for negotiation ka.
4. Posture tells the story. This means when someone walks into the room alone or along with others, we could identify who's the one in charge. Thai culture can see it very easily and oftentimes, automatically like the seniors and bosses sit or stand in front or in the middle na ka.
This is what we should practice ka: maintaining good posture commands respect and promotes engagement, whether you’re a leader or not.
5. Eyes that lie. “Look me in the eye when you talk to me!”...... this doesn't sound Thai mai ka? Younger gens may be a little more westernized to look into the eyes but older gens tend to talk by looking at the other person from his/her nose and down mai ka?
The author pointed out that on average, Americans hold eye contact for seven to ten seconds, longer when we’re listening than when we’re talking. If you’re talking with someone whose stare is making you squirm—especially if they’re very still and unblinking—something is up and they might be lying to you.
6. Raised eyebrows signal discomfort. The article stressed that if 'somebody who is talking to you raises their eyebrows and the topic isn’t one that would logically cause surprise, worry, or fear, there is something else going on.'
I don't quite get it and have to observe more ka.
7. Exaggerated nodding signals anxiety about approval. 'When you’re telling someone something and they nod excessively, this means that they are worried about what you think of them or that you doubt their ability to follow your instructions.'
I think this too would need more observations because in our traditions, we tend to nod often following bosses' instructions or seniors' stories to show agreements and attention mai ka?
8. A clenched jaw signals stress. This seems to be obvious but I still am not sure if it's easily seen in our culture ka.
How many can describe your own body language ka?
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