Hi again! I now wish to share more cases learned from the Satir Model ka.
1. It's about a single mom (will call her Nong 'K') with two teenage kids ka. She had a flight with her son who's 15 over his wish for a 'zipline experience' which is too risky for K to allow him to go for it. Then after several questions ajarn asked her, she burst into tears. This issue ignited many thoughts and feelings in her.
Long story short, she wants to be the best if not perfect single mom in her kids' eyes but things aren't coming her way as there's also family pressure from the divorce that K has taken it in her tightly. Ajarn slowly led her to 'come back to the present' without having to go far into the unknown future to feel more stressful. We need to realize as well that not everything is under control and each of us has our own karma to cope with. Ajarn stresses the word 'ดีพอ', literally meaning we're good enough as a person and we'll do more to be better. Perfection doesn't exist.
It isn't easy to be in the present even when it's been said and told repeatedly ka. I truly admire parents who devote their time and much part of their lives for their kids to grow as healthily and comfortably as possible. I also think of a Fulbright alum who wishes to see Thai parents give themselves some personal time pursuing what they like and engage their kids in that particular activity as appropriate....not to do the full-time job taking care of their kids' matters....especially driving and waiting for them during school hours or other activities.
2. One participant (I'll call her 'A') volunteered to be 'star' (sharing her story to be the demo for the class).
She's been suffering for decades from her weight when she is around 160+ and 70 kg. It started from much younger age when she was bullied about it and it seems to 'haunt' her till today. Sometimes, she tries hard to be on a strict diet and loses some good kilos. Then, it would swing back, noting to her own self she was too strict about it and began to eat a lot. It's been a repeated loop, during which the picture of the person bullying her has popped up often. While she was sharing the story, she cried out of her hurt. I was teary. (teary several times during this training in fact!)
With the questions and lead of the ajarn, A slowly calmed down to realize that the person bullied her has long gone somewhere she doesn't even know. It's time to throw it away (literally threw it during the session too!) to no longer harm her inner self. On the other aspect, ajarn led her to see how kind she's been to others from the responses she's given. A also knows that she needs to be more flexible to herself.
I learned my lessons too ka.
At first when A started sharing her story, I couldn't really get it why it became one big thing for her.....to learn later that 'nothing is small to the one who's facing it.' as each person takes in remarks and noises differently. It also reminded me of what I got last time from the basic Satir that 0-18 years old are the most important ages to care for inner selves.
On the whole, I feel real grateful to the two ajarns (
ศ.เกียรติคุณ พญ.นงพงา ลิ้มสุวรรณ
รศ.นพ.พิชัย อิฏฐสกุล) who spared their 3 days for the training. The rich experiences, the ways they posed questions, and the kindness shone have enhanced our learning and softened the atmosphere to become a safe space to share ka.
Very happy to be able to attend it. I told Ajarn Nongpa-nga I really liked the first one I attended and for this one, I still like it...only even more ka.
Cheers to all kind hearts including ours to stay nice and kind too ka.
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