Hello all! You must know right away what I'm sharing today and tomorrow na ka.
Peaceful Death is the latest workshop I attended the past weekend. It was a 3-day course, staying over at the Royal Gem, Nakorn Pathom for 2 nights ka.
There are lots to share and let me go for only 2 parts ka. This will mention the contexts and my overall learning experiences. The second one will share my direct exposure visiting a patient ka.
The context:
1. About 40 participants were there with various objectives ka. A few with their immediate family members, like parents and kids who take care of them, wished to learn what kind of care and support should be given to the elderly and the chronically sick parents. One couple would like each other to be ready for the husband's deadly sickness while another has no kids and so their preparation to handle their final stage of life would be helpful.for both the sick and the survivor.. Many went alone to be more aware and able to manage ka.
I went with my best friend who has to take care of her mom for any unexpected issues to be faced though at present, she's still functioning quite ok ka.
For me, I hope to understand better to die peacefully with the least burdens of those around ka. Age ranges from early 30-s- 90's!
2. Activities were led by Pra Paisan who's quite well-known nationwide for his teachings and by a highly capable team to gear us through each of the sessions.
Ice breaking activities responded well to all the age groups, enabling us to get to know some of them while using it to alert us between the sessions (the first two days ran till 9 pm ka.)
3. My lessons learned comprise the following:
- Death is at the corner for each and every one! Even with the best self care and home support, life is fragile at any point of time and day. Yes, a fact of life to accept. Yet, we tend to forget about it ka.
- Caregivers can be anyone to take turns. We shouldn't take it for granted that caregivers must be female who have the least career development or education.
- Love is at the core of care! It isn't about duty as kids or siblings but because the love we have for each other makes us feel dedicated to tending to the sick.
- Be ready to let our inner circle know how we want to die! Express it in form of a book called, 'สมุดเบาใจ' (literally meaning a book of light-heartedness), asking us questions how others should manage during our final days before passing ka.
- Respect the patient's need to offer physical and emotional care. Two-way communication for mutual understanding and proper actions is essential.
- Guilt will be much less or gone when both agree to the process in advance. This has been the issue we all have faced one way or another and I think this is the key for us all to feel that we've done our best with the consent of the one to pass so he/she die peacefully without worries ka.
- To have no worries during the transition needs serious practice. It's likely that we'll have 'life review' to flash back our past during the transition, some forgotten, others hidden deeply. Reflect and follow with actions, e.g. express our apologies, to tell our loved ones we love them, or to sort out issues to rid the guilts!
Lots chai mai ka? I only share a fraction of what I've tried and learned ka. In the next email, I'll talk about my experience, interacting with a stroke patient and her relatives ka.
Any comment mai ka?
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